We like the idea that there’s always someone responsible for any given event, because that helps us make sense of the world. We like that so much that sometimes we blame ourselves, just so that there’s someone to blame. But not everything is under our control, or even anyone’s control.
P299 / 2021-01-10 17:27
If there is one person you can talk to without pretense, it’s your own self.
P291 / 2021-01-10 17:10
It’s the essential nature of stars that they have so few characteristics; they’re the backdrop against which the Earth stands out, reminding us of how special we are. Choosing to study them has always felt a bit like choosing to taste the plate that food is served on.
“Science is not just the search for the truth,” he said. “It’s the search for purpose.”
Let me always be inquisitive, but never be suspicious.
It seemed to me that a perfect memory couldn’t be a narrative any more than unedited security camera footage could be a feature movie.
P209 / 2021-01-01 16:17
“Forgive and forget” goes the expression, and for our idealized magnanimous selves, that is all you needed. But for our actual selves, the relationship between those two actions isn’t so straightforward. In most cases, we have to forget a little bit before we can forgive; when we no longer experience the pain as fresh, the insult is easier to forgive， which in turn makes it less memorable， and so on. It’s this psychological feedback loop that makes initially infuriating offenses seem pardonable in the mirror of hindsight.
P198 / 2021-01-01 15:54
If you want to create the common sense that comes from twenty years of being in the world, you need to devote twenty years to the task. You can’t assemble an equivalent collection of heuristics in less time; experience is algorithmically incompressible.
P163 / 2020-12-28 20:10
What does physical intimacy mean if there aren’t those barriers to overcome.
P149 / 2020-12-28 16:54
Low expectations are a self fulfilling prophecy.
P115 / 2020-12-28 00:01
Complex minds can’t develop on their own. If they could, feral children would be like any others. And minds don’t grow as weeds do, flourishing under indifferent attention; otherwise all children in orphanages would thrive. For a mind to even approach its full potential, it needs cultivation by other minds.
P106 / 2020-12-27 18:22
Coincidence and intention are two sides of a tapestry, my lord. You may find one more agreeable to look at, but you cannot say one is true and the other is false.
P31 / 2020-12-25 00:32
Four things do not come back: when spoken word, the sped arrow, the past life, and the neglected opportunity.
P29 / 2020-12-25 00:26